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Behaving Yourself in Family Court; Someone is Watching

Posted on Tuesday, November 17th, 2015 by Tim Simonson and is filed under Divorce, Minnesota.

Perception is reality; and that lesson can sometimes be a hard one to be reminded of, especially when that lesson can affect the outcome of an Order for Protection. Recently, the Minnesota Court of Appeals issued an opinion on whether a District Court Judge committed error by considering ‘courtroom demeanor’ of a father who contested… Read more »

When Smart People Do Stupid Things

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce, Process.

Most of my clients are very smart people. They have advanced degrees, earn a good income, and are very good at what they do. But that doesn’t mean that they know what to do – or how to behave – in the divorce process. I often tell clients that part of my job is to… Read more »

Communication Is Key

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce, Life.

A common question I get at the beginning of a divorce case is “How much is this going to cost?” My answer is almost always, “It depends. The more contested your case, the longer the case will go on, the more of my time is required, the more expensive it will be. Conversely, the more… Read more »

Don’t Take Positions Based on “Principle”

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce.

All too often in divorce cases, parties take positions based upon principle. This is not a good idea. It makes cases difficult to settle, and results in unnecessary acrimony, not to mention cost. What do I mean by this? What I mean is, determine a reasonable and realistic settlement, and focus on that. Don’t take… Read more »

Avoid Power Plays

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce.

While power plays are good things in hockey, you should avoid them in your divorce case. All too often, people going through a divorce argue about anything and everything. Both want to feel like they are in control and they have all the power. This attitude can trickle down to very meaningless and petty issues…. Read more »

Let Me Save You From Yourself

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce, Minnesota.

Whether you know it or not, one of my jobs as your lawyer is to be your filter. Clients don’t realize just how poorly they can come across. They are caught up in the emotional aspect of their divorce. They are hurt. They want revenge. They want to get back at their spouse. They want… Read more »

The Importance of Self Awareness

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce, Minnesota.

I recently read an “Ask Amy” column that caught my eye. The writer explained that every year she and her sisters and female cousins got together near the Christmas holidays for shopping, dining, and a girls-weekend at a hotel. They stopped inviting a particular sister, however, because according to the writer, this sister just did… Read more »