When Smart People Do Stupid Things

Posted on Wednesday, November 4th, 2015 by Marc Beyer and is filed under Divorce,  Process.

Most of my clients are very smart people. They have advanced degrees, earn a good income, and are very good at what they do. But that doesn’t mean that they know what to do – or how to behave – in the divorce process.

I often tell clients that part of my job is to cast them in the most reasonable light possible. This is because whether they know it or not, people in the throes of divorce are tempted to behave badly. They do stupid things. In an effort to “protect themselves,” they do things that can be difficult to defend. They have no understanding of how their behavior will be viewed by a Judge who might have to make important decisions in their case.

This can happen at any time, but most often happens at the very beginning of the divorce process when the initial Summons and Petition are served. Emotions are running high. Everyone is on edge. People go crazy and do stupid things, like drain money from bank accounts or take the kids and leave town with no prior notice. The sky is falling and people don’t know what to do, so they act irrationally. They honestly believe that what they are doing is appropriate, but don’t realize that they may be shooting themselves in the foot and providing their spouse with ammunition.

If you find yourself in this situation, take a deep breath. Call your lawyer. Figure out a strategy. Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. Put the fire out before it gets started. Don’t put yourself (or your lawyer) in a situation where you have to defend bad behavior.

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